Many women facing an unexpected pregnancy move immediately to the two most common options: parenting and abortion. But the third option, adoption, is often overlooked. You might have concerns like, “What if that family doesn’t take good care of my baby?” or, “What if I live the rest of my life wondering what happened to my child?”
Those are normal concerns to have for the baby inside you. It means you are already becoming a loving mother, whether you will raise your child or entrust him or her to a loving adoptive family. One thing that is helpful to know is that there are three common types of adoption:
1. Open Adoption
In an open adoption, you can meet and get to know the family who will be adopting your child while you are still pregnant. You will make a plan together. It’s possible to arrange for letters, phone calls and even face-to-face visits. As your child grows, you can continue to stay in touch and be a regular part of his or her life, if you choose.
2. Semi-open Adoption
In a semi-open adoption, you can choose the adoptive parents from a profile, most often provided to you by an adoption agency. These profiles often contain pictures, references and a personal note from the couple to help you choose a family. Any letter or contact between you and your child would take place through your relationship with the adoption agency.
3. Closed Adoption
In a closed adoption, you won’t meet or have contact with the adoptive parents. This option can be preferable if you’re concerned about your privacy.